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To care or not to care

Lots of questions... such as: "To care or not to care" which sounds like "to be or not to be". Seems similar, to me, too. If I am then I care. I have to care! The answer to this question is simply - CARE.

How can I live and not care? The fact is I CARE ABOUT:
myself,
my CHILDREN!
my partner,
my family (whoever they are),
my friends,
my neighbors,
my community,
my religion,
my town,
my State,
my political party,
my country,
MY WORLD!

As I look at the list I think it is fairly well ordered. Yes it begins with myself. And then it uses the possessive "my" and I do think that a certain aspect of owning the people and things listed is ok. It is ok as long as there is reciprocation and boundaries and freedom for all. The "my" possessive is not meant to be controlling but is meant to be significantly connecting.

Control - NO.

Connect - YES.

To connect is to care as far as I understand things. I try to know and understand people and remember them and as I know I become aware of ways to care and help and support those on the list.

Caring is a matter of loving and/or helping and/or being present and/or voting and/or praying, etc. ALL my actions are meant to connect me -- closely or with distance.

I simply believe - caring equals connecting OR connecting equals caring... Together, either way, the result is community and as the kind of animal/mammal we are -- community is essential. No one of us, today or ever?, can live all alone without benefits from others. We all do something for some other and how close we are connected differs for different things but we all have needs others fill and/or have filled.

COMMUNITY! Care! Really. "Not caring" is not an option. I have been and am cared for... and I must reciprocate if My World will continue. If I, and others, do not reciprocate then the future will likely be DONE. I would rather continue myself and with others and I hope we can make a world that is better and better and better for all.

(and check my basic thought about choices by clicking here)

  © Ken Firestein - 2018

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